You have to be extremely careful when you discuss your past relationships with your partner. While it is good to discuss the past if it matters to your current partner but you need to tread properly to avoid any dents in your current relationship. So here are some handy tips when you talk about your exes with your partner: Thumb rule Say what they want to here instead of saying what they should here. If you know your partner for some time you know what will hurt them and how progressive or open-minded they are. So judge and then reveal.