You are a reflection of your thoughts. There is a reason why psychologists and motivational speakers across the world ask you to think positive and be positive. You don t need to be hard on yourself just because life seems difficult. In fact this is the time you need to support your mind with positive encouraging and confident thoughts. Self-pity will make things worse. So never say the following things to yourself: I m not good enough If you re not good enough then no one else will be good enough for you. Self-loathing isn t going to take you