7 things to avoid during courtship if you want a happy marriage

Did you get engaged recently? Here's a list of things you must stay away from, lest you freak out your partner!

If you have got engaged recently, it s very natural for you and your partner to be spending a considerable amount of time together, before tying the knot. This is the sweetest phase of your relationship you would cherish all your life. The memories you make now will be with you forever. However, you must be careful about your behavior with your partner, so as to not hurt their feelings. Make sure you don t start saying or doing things that won t go down well with him/her. Such actions may have repercussions like unnecessary arguments and misunderstandings, and the marriage may even be called off in the worst case! Hence, follow your heart but mind your steps during your courtship period if you want a happily ever after with your partner after marriage!

• Open up slowly: It is said that in order to make it work, you must open up to your partner. But, bonds are never made in a day. Take it slow and steady. Let the things unfold gradually to avoid misunderstandings or rejections. You both need to give each other time to understand each other s comfort zones and discover if you are on the same wavelength. Here are some common grooming problems men should fix before their wedding.
• Leave future stuff for future: Pre-planning your future is another red flag to look out for. Doubling up on stress is simply the last thing that you would want when you are already going crazy with the wedding preparations. Unless extremely necessary, stay away from these kind of conversations which might end up freaking out your partner. Going overboard with discussions related to wedding flowers, honeymoon suites and kids names is bound to suffocate your partner and drive him/her farther away from you. Here are ten common beauty problems women need to fix before their wedding.
• Give some space: Courtship is the best time for you to get close, but think twice before your partner gets cold feet because of your actions. Maintaining personal space is extremely important. No doubt, you both are a change-maker in each other's life, but discussing aspects which can drive him/her crazy can create discontent now as well as in future. So, it's vital to give space to your would-be better half. Follow these tips to make your relationship last longer.
• Be yourself: It s normal to focus on each other at this stage. But, if you keep hiding your real personality, the other person might get confused so as to who you actually are. It's important to voice your opinion and stop pretending being fond of everything he/she likes. This is a worst kind of start that you can ever have. Be real so that your would-be is aware of your likes and dislikes from the budding stage itself. Here's what you should never do to your partner in a relationship.
• Texting rules: You must be super chatty with your partner at this lovely stage, exchanging romantic messages throughout the day and night. And your smartphones help you to enjoy the much-awaited intimacy to its full potential. But remember that you can never really pour your emotions into those texts, which your partner might misinterpret as minced words. So, it s better to stay away from this non-verbal form of communication as much as possible. The SMSes not only appear unreal, but are also inappropriate to express your real self. It's not that we don't value texting, but hour-long conversations are a strict no! Here's how WhatsApp is kiling your relationship.
• Stay true: It's not shocking if you are trying hard to please your partner in every possible way. At times you morph yourself a little, travel the extra mile to make him/her happy, which is quite understood. But if those are lies and white truths; it would only spoil things for your future. At times it feels risky to show the real you, but ultimately, your partner has to know it all. Here's how to find out if your partner is insecure about you.
• Be practical: Love, relationship or marriage are things where everyone eventually gets emotional. On the other hand, the key to creating a healthy foundation to a lifelong bond is practicality. For example, romance, flowers or going weak on the knees are fine, but trying to force the relationship into something it is not at this initial stage is a not at all a good idea. You can let your emotions take a backseat at times, as every situation doesn't call for expression. It's not necessary that she/he would like to share the same cone of ice-cream with you or start uttering those three magical words at the drop of hat. Let the journey be smooth and take its own course, while you are celebrating. Here are six signs that your relationship won't last.

Finally, it is your own relationship and nobody can love or understand your partner better than you. Cherish these moments of togetherness and create beautiful memories. Since every special thing needs its own sweet time to develop, your love too, will one day blossom into a happily-ever-after.

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