How do I convince my partner to perform oral sex on me? (Sex query)

Why oral sex is not as icky as you might think it is.

I am a 25-year-old married woman. My husband loves it when I perform oral sex on him, but he does not do the same for me. I do not orgasm when we have sex and do when he touches me during foreplay. I think I will orgasm if he performs oral sex on me. But he refuses to do so, saying that it is unhygienic since that's where I pee from. How do I convince him?

First of all, please remind him that his penis is where the pee comes out from, therefore making it more unhygienic than your vagina. From where, incidentally, you do not pass urine.

A woman's genitalia consists of three openings. One for pee, the vagina and the anus -- making your system down there, quite clean. Apart from that, your vagina has cells that help produce a fluid that helps keep the organ clean by killing harmful bacteria -- your vagina is self cleaning. Here's how your vagina can care for itself.

While, it is a common perception that the vagina is unclean, it is not true. If you simply maintain proper hygiene, your husband can perform oral sex without any fear of contracting an infection. You may also like to read about these tips to stay clean before oral sex.

That being said, when it comes to convincing him, I think it is more about making him understand that it will be extremely pleasurable for you (just like it is for him), and that he should give it a try. Apart from that, it is his belief that the vagina is unclean that has to change. If all else fails, you can ask him to start off by stimulating your clitoris with his mouth and tongue and then move on to your vagina when he is comfortable. You could also cut a flavoured condom in half and use it as a sheath on your genitalia so that he can stimulate you orally without coming in physical contact your 'lady parts'. This will help him get over the icky factor of oral sex.

But if he still does not want to perform oral sex, worry not. You have a number options to help you orgasm. While you can always masturbate to help yourself, you can also try some interesting sex positions that can help deepen penetration and therefore help you orgasm and lastly you can stimulate your clitoris as your husband penetrates you-- to help you achieve an orgasm. You may also like to read about these 7 everyday items you can use to masturbate.

You may also like to read:

A man's step-by-step guide to pleasuring a woman

10 ways to give a woman multiple orgams

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