7 myths you need to STOP believing when you patch-up with your ex

Just shun the thought that you can ever be friends.

By: Tania Tarafdar | | Published: May 15, 2017 4:19 pm

We have all been through the breakup and patch up cycle. But before you think it is a fresh new start every time you patch up with your partner, you must also remember that certain things never change. It might be hard hitting but get these points clear in your mind stop believing in things that don t exist. Also Read - Don’t let a break-up wreak havoc on your mental health amidst the lockdown

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1. He is a new person: You must learn to accept the fact that people don t change so quickly. Change requires a lot of motivation, self-improvement and most importantly time. Now immediately think, did your ex take the time to improve himself? If no, you are in just another trap. Also Read - This dating app uses DNA to find your true love

2. You kissed, and so you can go back home together: Has this happened to you? You met for coffee, or went to a lounge and had a couple of drinks and kissed. Even if you have done that, remember that it is not a reason for you to go back home together. One kiss cannot change things. It happens only in movies and sounds too good to be true. However, if you know that you cannot keep your hands off each other do not meet up that often. It can prevent you from moving on.

3. He cares for you more: Your partner may comment on your Facebook posts and sending you lovey dovey texts more often than before, but let his activities not trick you into thinking that he loves you. Remember, if he did not care to text you or call you in the past, he would not do it in future. Try these yoga poses to deal with depression after break-up.

4. No one is perfect: If you broke up because you finally realised that you just weren t right for each other, accept it and move on. Thoughts like no one is perfect and we look great together or we complement each other may crop up, but if things don’t feel right just move on and find the right one.

5. You are exaggerating: You might just want to give your relationship a second chance if you broke up because of work, relatives or other external reason. But if your partner cheating on you has been a reason for your break-up, it can be a real reason to end the relationship. Analyse why you broke up and don t ever think you overreacted if he cheated on you or abused you.

6. You can be friends: Get that in your head that you cannot be friends with a person you have been associated with romantically. Such relations do not have the foundation of trust and break very easily. Also, there will always be a desire to get back to square one with your ex which will not let you keep your friendship stable.

7. You cannot date anyone else now: The first and foremost way to broaden your horizons is to get to know a new person. So don t be scared to go on a new date with a new person. For all you know, you might just meet your Mr Right. These 7 books will help you get over a break-up.

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Published : May 15, 2017 4:19 pm

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