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Dating a shy person? Here are tips that will work

Break their shy exterior to discover the vibrant personality.

Written by Kriti Saraswat |Updated : October 23, 2015 5:50 PM IST

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A reserved person is often difficult to read and understand as they do not share their thoughts or express their emotions that easily. Being one myself, I can tell you that it isn't that we want to hide things from our loved ones, but we are perhaps better listeners and observers than talkers. But if you hit the right chords, even the most shy person can open up to you without much hesitation. If you are dating or like someone who is shy, these tips will come in handy for you.

Initiate a conversation

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They have a million things going on inside their head but often fall short in making small talk. If you are the talker in the relationship, you should strike up a conversation and then they can follow it up. It's not like they don't want to talk to you but they can be at a loss of words or topics to start one. A little nudge from you will certainly help. Also read - tips to woo a bookworm.

Open up

A shy person may not be the easiest one to open up and tell you their deep, dark secrets or dreams. But it can be a lot easier if you open up about yours and then in return you can expect the same. Maybe they might need a little more probing than others but it doesn't really matter as long as the two of you can bond.

Make them feel comfortable

Reserved people often take time to open up but take one step at a time. Make them feel comfortable by taking it slow and asking them what they like and then doing that. They will be open to trying things that you like too but once they are in their safe space. So ask them about their likes and dislikes and then take the next step.

Be patient

Yes, you'll need to be patient with such people. They are not too outgoing to share every detail of the day but once they know they can confide in you, you will surely see the change in them. Don't worry, it will just take a little more time than usual. Also read - 8 rules to impress your date.

Make the first move

When it comes to intimacy, you may want to make the first move. They surely want to get close to you physically and may throw hints your way. It is your job to notice them and then do the needful. A little touch of hands, a peck on the cheek and then taking things forward can do the trick. Once you initiate it, you will be surprised how much they like it and reciprocate.

It might not be the easiest thing to date a shy person but once you fall in their comfort zone, they will no longer be the shy person you knew.

Disclaimer: These are personal tips and not from an expert. Please use these at your own discretion.

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