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5 sex-citing tips to spice up your life

Written by Nirmalya Dutta |Updated : September 25, 2014 5:48 PM IST

Time take its toll on everything, even the fieriest romances lose their spark with the passage of time. There's probably no great romance novel that ends with the characters getting married! There are various reasons for this, the most important one being taking things we have for granted.

Dr Vijayasarathi Ramanthan, a men's health physician and medical sex therapist feels that this is due to a sense of ownership. He said: 'The passage of time blunts the joy of having something new. Your new car won't feel as good two months later. The same problem exists in relationships, apathy creeps in. There's also the fact that sex with the same person can become highly predictable, it almost becomes routine.' But that doesn't mean that there's no cure for this ailment. Here are five tips to bring the fire back into your bedroom (and any other place you feel like having sex):

#Tip 1: Open up and talk about it

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Most men would scoff at this idea but most problems in this world stem from lack of communication. So just tell your partner you're unhappy, that you miss the wonderful sex life you had together. Tell them you want it again. Most probably your partner too wants the same thing, they're having trouble expressing themselves.

#Tip 2: Make a date night

Neha, a 25-year-old media executive told us: 'I had been in a live-in relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years and it was getting boring. So one day I came home after office to find a note inviting me to dinner. Once I entered the dining room I found that my boyfriend had gone the whole hog champagne on ice, romantic music playing and a sumptuous dinner (take-away obviously). I just forgot all about my tiredness. The sex we had that night was just out of this world.' Couples often forget to make time for themselves and just keeping some 'us time' can go a long way in bringing the spark back.

#Tip 3: Dirty texting

Self-esteem plays a very important role in boosting one's libido. Just send your partners some dirty texts and watch him/her come back all charged up. Text your partner saying that you're super-horny for them and can't wait to get it on tonight. Of course it would be wise to make sure that you're texting/emailing them on a personal account and not the office one.

#Tip 4: Spring a surprise

Rohit, a 30-year-old reveals how his wife spiced things up in a manner that blew him away. He said: 'We had been married for 8 years and there was hardly any time for sex after having two kids. Also work sapped both our energies and we'd be dying to just sleep by the time we reached home. So imagine my surprise when one day my wife turned up in the office, closed the door and made out with me like crazy in my office (thankfully I've an office without any windows). She said she wanted me right then and there. Thank god my boss didn't walk in.'

#Tip 5: Make your partner's fantasies come true

Rahul 35-year-old noticed that his wife Leena was reading E.L James Fifty Shades of Grey. A little research on Wikipedia told him all he needed to know about the book. So when his wife returned from work, she found some lingerie on the bed along with a blindfold and some handcuffs. Rahul walked in dressed in a smart suit, handcuffed her and took her on her bed. Leena later claimed that it was amazing to experience something that she had only read about. (Learn more about making your fantasies come true)

Caution: Bondage, BDSM and other such fetishes many not work for everyone. If your partner doesn't like it, stop the role-play at once. This is just an example and we're sure you can try out other fantasy situations to spice up your sex life.

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