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10 ways porn is different from real life sex (and it could be ruining your sex life!)

No, they aren't the same. Find out how it could be ruining your sex life.

A lot of people watch porn and think that sex in real life is or will be the same. Well, ladies and gentlemen -- you are quite wrong! And what's worse, all those expectations, might be ruining your sex life. So, to give you a reality check, here are some things that are absolutely not true when it comes to porn and real life sex

1. The woman always orgasms with penetrative sex: This is actually one of the most misrepresented features of porn. In actuality, women rarely orgasm with penetrative sex. That's because a woman's clitoris is the one that helps them orgasm (apart from their G-spot), an organ that barely gets stimulated during penetrative sex. That is why a shocking 71% don't orgasm when you have penetrative sex. So guys, women in porn are either faking it or are part of that small percentage that can have an orgasm during sex.

2. Man's penis size: 'Is my penis big enough to pleasure a woman?' is one of the most common questions. But if you compare your penis to men in porn movies you will definitely be mistaken. Men in porn movies have penises that are about six to nine inches long, whereas in reality the average male penis size is about 5.54 inches long. Remember it is not about how big it is, it is how you use it that makes all the difference. You may also like to read -- How big is normal? The size of the average Indian male penis revealed!

3. Women squirting: Squirting is another common occurrence in porn movies. This is where the woman squirts out a fluid when she has an orgasm. While it might be extremely hot to watch it online, know that only 6% of real women actually do.

4. Men lasting way too long: In porn movies a man can last the entire day, but reality is a quite a different story. An average male can last about three minutes on an average, and it is absolutely normal. So, stop looking for ways to last longer in bed, you are absolutely normal and do not have premature ejaculation. That being said, if you do notice that you have an issue performing in bed and it has been an issue for a while, you should visit a sexologist.

5. Threesomes: Fantasise about having a threesome with two women? Well, you might be wishing for something quite unattainable. According to the survey carried out in this video, only 20% of the women have ever had a threesome -- be it with another woman or with two men. It's true, most women will shy away from the prospect. But if you do want to make your dream a reality, maybe you should find a lady who is willing.

6. The positions that porn stars have sex in: In porn movies, the positions that the porn stars have sex in a variety of extremely 'interesting' positions. But in reality, most of these positions are only something you can achieve if you or your partner are professional gymnasts. What's more, some of them could be uncomfortable or even painful for you or the woman you are with. Also, the frequent change in positions is something most people don't do in real life. Ideally, trying new positions is a great way to spice things up, but know that it can be difficult to achieve in reality. You could give some of these advanced sex positions from the Kamasutra.

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7. Hair down there or anywhere: Women and men in porn movies never have hair down there or for that matter anywhere on their body. While this might be the ideal situation for you, know that it is not possible to achieve that extent of hairlessness (for lack of a better word). You have hair on your body for a reason, and getting rid of it can be painful and tedious. Just go with the flow and enjoy your partner's body for what it is. Want to get rid of body hair? Here are a few options you have.

8. Lesbian or gay sex: The percentage of women who have had a same sex experience is about as low as 11.5%. Another thing that most porn movies will show to be the most normal event during a sexual romp.

9. Arousal time: If porn movies were to be believed then a woman would be aroused the moment you walk in the door, or show her your penis. Trust us, this is absolutely false. In reality, it takes about 10-12 minutes to arouse a woman and one study actually states that it takes about 30 minutes. In short it takes a while, don't expect her to ooh and aah with pleasure the moment you touch her. Here are 5 spots on a woman's body you should explore to turn her on.

10. Strangers are welcome: One of the most common opening shots of a porn movie has a woman with a stranger and two minutes (sometimes less) later the two of them are having sex. Again not something that actually happens in real life. Most women would like to at least talk to the guy they are about to have sex with.

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