Written By: Debjani Arora | Published : April 27, 2016, 5:44 PM
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People act differently around you when you are pregnant. Everyone will be concerned about your growing belly, eating habits and how you pull yourself from one place to other with all that weight tied to your stomach, oh poor you! Only that you don’t need those mindless affections and unsolicited advice. But they won’t stop. Here are 10 things people should absolutely stop doing to a pregnant woman.
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You are showing too much: Body shaming comes in subtle tones. Are you carrying twins? You look huge for your trimester. All that weight might not be good for you post-pregnancy. These are not just insensitive comments but utterly ignorant too.
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Your belly looks huge: In India, most people love to joke about the belly (how big or small it is), touch and predict the gender or even comment about the mother’s sex life. We don’t even know what we should call these jerks.
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Was your pregnancy planned: And it doesn’t stop here. Is your husband happy? Was it an accident? Were you prepared for this? Somebody needs to teach them how to keep their mouth shut. She is pregnant and shared the news with you --congratulate and shut up.
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Will you join work again: Well, nobody is going to pay your bills, but everyone is keen to know how you are going to pay for yourself if you choose to be a stay-at-home-mom? And if you don’t ask them for financial help, you are a big disaster for them.
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Is your doctor good enough: Oh yeah you didn’t try the plush hospital she swears by and they think you and your husband have opted to go to a Hakim instead.
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It must be difficult: Nobody says it is easy to get through pregnancy, labour and child rearing. But you really don’t need a reminder to dampen your spirits from your so-called well-wishers.
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How does it feel: Fighting morning sickness, fatigue and pregnancy cramps you really want to tell them it feels like you are bungee jumping. But you prefer to keep numb with just a smile that says enough.
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I don’t think you should eat..: Pizza, pastry, pickles and Chinese. Sure they don’t know what it means to have cravings during pregnancy. But some of these advice are given in good heed.
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Don’t fall for the C-section trap: As if you have any control over the labour. Sure you are doing your best to help your child come out in the world in the pink of health and talking negatively about a c-section only makes you more anxious. Best you can do ignore.
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Probably your baby will not sleep through the night: Yes, when you say you have sleepless nights this is what you hear from people and that scares you to no end something that you don’t need right now. So stop confiding everything to everyone.
