I am a working mom, and proud of it! And I also know that people judge me for that, well mostly because a lot of people like to judge. Anyway, this is a life choice I made, fully understanding the whole package it comes with. So I do not appreciate when you ask me whether it is difficult to leave my child and be out for 8-10 hours. I am at a loss when you ask me whether I miss my child during the day. I don't know what to answer when you insensitively remark that you can't even think of stepping out of the house for little money if it meant leaving your child behind. Sometimes it baffles me how insensitive people can be! Here are the top five comments that people pass about working mothers that need to stop now. Like right now!
You do it for pocket money: Maybe I work because I need to, maybe I work because I like to. Maybe I work because I like to earn my own money. In any of these cases, I don't see why it is a problem for you. You decided to live off your husband's credit card, I decided to pay my own taxes. I am not judging you, so why not return the favour? Having someone to pay for you is a privilege. Not having to worry about finances and your child's education cost is a privilege. Count your blessings instead of rubbing it in my face.
You don't know what real parenting feels like: Really! Like really? You think being with your child 24/7 is the only way to understand what 'parenting' is? Where is all this wisdom coming from? Is there a secret Whatsapp group called 'the really real mothers, not the part-time kind' which I am not a part of? So you are telling me trying to squeeze in maximum hugs, tickles, book reading and running around in the time between returning from work and bedtime is not real parenting? My whole life feels like a lie!
Why do you come home so late: Because I work. And sometimes things don't happen on time. Like how you thought you will do your laundry on Tuesday and it is Saturday today and you don't have any clean underwear? There are days when I leave office early, and most days I leave on time. Tell me again, why does it bother you so much?
You will not have a strong bond with your child: I get what you are saying. This child who runs to me when I come back home, who spends most of our time together perched on my waist and who hugs and kisses me a million times before sleeping does not love me enough. I feel like a total fail!
She'll think her caretaker is her 'mom'?! My child can't differentiate between left and right. She often gets confused with colour names. You see, she can learn all this as she grows up. I am sure I can work towards teaching her to call me 'mom' too, if she ever gets confused.
I often wonder why insensitivity is so widespread. I have a good thing going here, work-life balance, a healthy child and a good career graph. Do not ruin all this by your stupid comments. Thanks.
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