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Deal with sibling rivalry with patience and care

It may be common for brothers and sisters to fight. But it is not pleasant and can create tension in the house. As a parent you must make some rules and stick to it.

By: Editorial Team   | | Published: December 10, 2019 7:27 pm
Tags: parenting tips  Sibling quarrels  
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Parents are often at the receiving end and they have a tough time controlling their kids’ animosity. © Shutterstock

It is very true that siblings can be either the best of friends or they can be their own worst enemies. As long as there is more than one child in the house, sibling rivalry is inevitable. This is perfectly normal and can lead to better bonding. But it may become a problem if this rivalry becomes toxic. Most of the time, this rivalry starts when a second child comes to the house. The first-born feels threatened and starts to compete for everything from toys to attention. Parents are often at the receiving end and they have a tough time controlling their kids’ animosity. Most of the time, they may not be sure if they should interfere. Also Read - Self-controlled children likelier to grow up to be healthier adults: Here's how to teach your child self-control

But as parents you need to be vigilant and spot any rivalry right at the beginning. This way you can take proper steps to stop the acrimony that may follow. Your kids are probably indulging in this rivalry just to get your attention. But it can also be something deeper and psychological. So, being alert will help you in the long run. Also Read - Parenting tips: Hope you’re not making this biggest parenting mistake



Establish What’s Acceptable & What’s Not

When you set rules, children understand the boundaries in sibling relationships and learn negotiation skills. Counsellor Jill A Johnson-Young suggests a few rules: Also Read - Importance of child vaccination: Keeping up with easy to go immunization schedule

Words can and do hurt, so watch what you say.

Hitting or physically touching in those moments is not ever going to be acceptable behavior, and will have adverse consequences.

Always use “please” and ask the sibling to “borrow” things rather than “take” them.

Play fairly in a game—cheating is a strict no-no. Separate your children if they are going beyond these boundaries. Later, ask them to apologize to each other.

Allocate Teamwork, Not Teams

“Avoid playing games at home that have your children competing against one another. Have them be on the same team and work together,” says Danielle Larkins, mental health counselor and blogger. This process can be started by encouraging them to assist their younger siblings in studies and projects, helping each other with clean-up after playtime, and so on.

Compliment But Only When Alone

“If you want to compliment your child and tell them they’ve done a good job, do it privately. Each child is special, and it’s good to let him/her know why, but it can foster a lot of jealousy if told in front of the other child,” adds Larkins.

Think Before You Intervene

Johnson-Young asks you to stay out of it if the fair-fighting rules are being followed—you might be raising a lawyer or Wall Street wizard who needs to know how to negotiate.

Model Healthy Rivalry

“Once children have the concept of boundaries, a squabble can become a formative moment. They need to learn that there are always winners and losers, and that being good sports and acknowledging the good play is an important part of any game or rivalry,” says Johnson-Young. Playing board games, video games, or sports together will help them accept failure gracefully later on in life.

Never Compare

Comparing your kid’s athletic and educational abilities can be very damaging to their self-esteem. Organizational and educational leader Dr Chester Goad says that these comparisons can project unrealistic expectations and cause unnecessary anxiety between siblings. It can create hard feelings and even alienation that lasts a lifetime. Johnson-Young adds, “One child feels ‘less than’ or ‘not good enough’, and forever competes silently for approval, attention, and love, ultimately blaming the sibling for being too good to compete against.”

Gear Them To Feel Proud, Not Jealous

Give your children the gift of encouragement. “Teaching them to encourage each other in their individual pursuits is the best way to avoid sibling rivalry,” says Dr Goad. Demonstrate good sportsmanship and explain that one person having more skill than the other doesn’t make them a better person, just better at that specific skill.

Give Them Time, Individually

Johnson-Young advises parents to ensure that all of their children have some one-on-one time with them several times a month, based on their developmental stage. This can include being the cook’s helper and choosing the meal, private park time, or a meal out. But it needs to belong to just that child. This is prevent sibling rivalry.

Text sourced from zliving.com

Published : December 10, 2019 7:27 pm
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