International Widows’ Day: Here’s what it’s like to be ‘vidhava’ in India

If the world were a fairer place, International Widows Day would have been a day of celebration and not just an opportunity to highlight the issues and raise awareness about their basic rights.

By: Agencies | | Published: June 24, 2016 12:03 pm

If the world were a fairer place, International Widows Day would have been a day of celebration and not just an opportunity to highlight the issues and raise awareness about their basic rights. The widows in India may no longer be throwing themselves on the funeral pyres of their husbands, but life for them remains hard. Many of them have to escape from brutal family homes and some get flung out by their sons and daughters-in-law as unwanted baggages. According to the 2011 census, there are about 5.6 crore widows in India. The number is definitely a bit more for 2016. Once widowed, the women often confront a denial of inheritance and land rights, degrading and life-threatening mourning and burial rites and other forms of widow abuse. Also Read - Avoid sexual dysfunction: Having multiple partners may actually be good for you

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According to the Home Ministry’s National Crime Bureau of India, violence against women is the fastest-growing crime. Every 34 minutes a woman is raped and every 43 minutes a woman is kidnapped. Millions of widows continue to be deprived of their basic dignity as a kind of atonement for some sin. It’s the punishment for being a woman and a widow in India. To top it all off, the estimated 40 million women go from being called she to it when they lose their better-halves. Tara Rana, social worker and Communication Officer, NGO Maitri, said, Every month we are approached by approximately 30 new widows. Because we can’t help all of them, we have a screening process to determine who is most needy and take those women into our care. (Read: 7 health tips from our experts for the superwoman in you) Also Read - Early menopause ups your risk of osteoporosis by almost 56 per cent: How to deal with it

In India, though Hindu Succession Act 1969 legally provides widows ownership of property through inheritance, it had not been of much benefit as it remained only on paper. Cast out by their families or simply alone in the world, many women in white travel hundreds of miles to get to the temple-crammed town of Vrindavan also known as the city of widows. Tara, whose Delhi-based non-governmental organisation works with the destitute widows living in Vrindavan and Radha Kund, noted, The most common challenge these widows face is finding a decent living space. They often can’t come up with enough money to rent a room, so they end up living in public spaces. The women who can afford to rent an inexpensive space end up in tiny rooms with nothing but a cot to sleep on. In both cases, they lack electricity and proper sanitation facilities. (Read: Five ambulances for Vrindavan widow homes)

She added, Most widows can’t afford food either, which forces them to rely on temples for meals and beg. Health problems surface a result of their improper diets and sanitation facilities, and the women don’t know who to go to for help. They often don’t know about free government programs, and don’t have any documents to prove their identity. Without ID cards, they can’t access Widows’ Pension or government health care and are even further cut off from resources. The Centre has come up with several schemes under the National Social Assistance Programme (NSAP) to provide financial assistance to the elderly, widows and persons with disabilities in the form of social pensions. 42-year-old Anita Bhardwaj (real name withheld) was maltreated by her in-laws after her husband’s death. She was beaten and deprived of all the rights. She was not even allowed to meet anyone.

Later, she was able to register her case with the help of a family friend and raise voice against injustice. Her case was reported under Section 498 A of the IPC and Domestic Violence Act 2005. The accused family members were sentenced to four-month imprisonment and penalty. She also got her share in the property. Since then, she is living an independent secure life. I lost my husband when I was 40 and there were times that my family, especially married women refused to even eat with me. I remember not being invited to events, people looking at me suspiciously if I smiled or laughed or at times even refusing to sit with me. It was almost like I was the reason why my husband died and I was left to live with the guilt. I still remember my mother telling me that I should have died with him. I was treated worse than an untouchable and deprived of all rights, informed Anita. (Read: 11 health tips for women from healthcare experts)

Kunal Madan, solicitor and advocate, KMA Law Firm, has been actively working particularly on widow-related cases in the Delhi High Court. He stated: It’s very unfortunate that though we are stepping in 21st century and in this era of technology and modernisation there is one area in which we are still awaiting transformation i.e. maltreatment with widows. Widowhood in India is still a state of social death, even among the higher castes. We have witnessed various actions taken by the society and recent amendment in the Indian Penal Code has also strengthened the law against women. However, the problem is due to lack of awareness about their rights, the actual incidents are rarely reported, added Madan. (Read: Women s Health Issues: Get information on common health concerns every women should know)

He informed that various rituals, which are considered as offences under the IPC, still continue to be followed in the rural section of our society. A dearth of reliable hard data remains one of the major obstacles to developing the policies and programmes to address the poverty, violence and discrimination suffered by widows. There is a need for more research and statistics disaggregated by marital status, sex and age in order to help reveal the incidents of widow abuse and illustrate the situation of widows. Madan further said, We need more laws to protect the special rights of widows and legislators must focus on these aspects. This International Widows Day, let’s pledge to make the society better for widows.

Source: ANI

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Published : June 24, 2016 12:03 pm

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