Are you in a relationship and insecure? And that bad feeling is consuming all your thought and time? You are keeping a constant tab on your partner and without realising you are the one who is hampering the relationship by suffocating your partner unnecessarily. If that is what you have been doing please back off he has his life and you have yours. Identity Crisis is a no-no You are not the only thing or relationship he has to worry about on the planet and it is best you accept it early on. He may have a mother a sister