To admire your partner is one thing but to regard him/her as superman or superwoman is quite another as a new study has found that putting your partner on a pedestal may harm your relationship. To know that your partner idealises you is a good thing only up to a point said the study. 'People who are feeling over-idealised may feel like they have more power in the relationship so they may be less willing to put their partner first' said Jennifer Tomlinson a psychologist at Colgate University in New York. (Read: A loving spouse is good for your heart!)