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Mental load in women: The invisible burden that affects mental, emotional and physical health

Constant planning, remembering and managing responsibilities can silently impact women's well-being. Know how mental load affects mental, emotional and physical health.

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Written By: Muskan Gupta | Published : July 10, 2026 6:20 PM IST

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Imagine two siblings organising a wedding. Both are running around all day. Both are greeting guests. Both are running to the market to buy things for rituals. Both moving chairs, checking stage decoration. Both are feeling exhausted. But one of them is also carrying the responsibility for everything.

While doing various things they are also wondering whether the videographer has been briefed about the entry of the bride, whether a driver has been assigned to pick the grandmother of a cousin who is late. While lying in bed, they are mentally reviewing 50 things that could go wrong the next morning. The physical work in both cases is similar. The mental burden is not.

What is mental load?

According to Dr. Eilia Jafar, Humanitarian, Development Professional and Certified Life Coach, "Many women experience something similar. They are not only doing the work. They are the ones making sure the work happens, that nothing is forgotten, that everyone is where they need to be, that the thing due next week has already been thought about this week."

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"A working woman carries her job and somewhere alongside it, her child's exam, an ageing parent's health, the groceries, the school fees, the family event nobody else has put on their calendar yet, a car service that is due. The tasks change but the mental tab stays open," the doctor added.

Mental load is not additional work. It is an additional responsibility carried simultaneously with the work. It is when your body is doing one thing and your mind is responsible for twenty others.

How mental load affects women's health?

So the cognitive stress resulting from mental load affects women differently. This constant mental load, combined with work responsibilities that extend well beyond office hours through a relentless stream of emails and WhatsApp messages, can take a significant toll on women's physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

Why heartbreak can impact women differently?

And the third, is the impact of heartbreaks. The human brain cannot differentiate between physical and social threats. Since ancient times, survival has depended on being a part of a tribe. Being abandoned, rejected, or losing an important relationship could reduce chances of survival. Any risk of losing the tribe is a perceived threat to survival.

Women usually feel the pain fully and immediately. Men tend to surface it later. But when that loss lands on a woman already running on a stretched mind and shifting hormones, it does not stay in one lane.

Why women should stop measuring their worth through sacrifice?

Women must stop measuring their worth through sacrifice. The notion that a good woman keeps everyone else in their family first, is misleading. In times where men want to share the load and support, it is important to make the invisible mental load visible.

For example, women need to talk about all the planning going on in their minds, about grocery, about bill payments, about insurance renewals, about medicine purchase, about gardening, about scheduling appointments for salon, about calling the carpenter, about deciding about the gift for a special occasion, or about food menu. Women need to remember they are worthy. They need not prove their worth to anyone.

What can men do? The greatest support you can offer is not helping with a task. It is helping carry the responsibility.

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Muskan Gupta

Muskan Gupta

Muskan Gupta is a passionate lifestyle and health journalist with over 4 years of experience. She has worked with leading media organisations like ANI and India TV. Currently employed at TheHealthSite.com under Zee Media, she brings stories to life and covers ... Read More