Body-shaming - How to handle bullies and haters who criticise you

Let the haters hate. Remember they are doing it because of their own insecurities.

Judging someone by their appearance is not only immature but frankly evil. Who in the right mind would tell somebody hey you 're fat , are you anorexic or you look pregnant . So how many of you have been shamed for your weight? It happened with me quite a few times. The first time was in my college a time when you want to impress people and be cool. I have also had people who attacked me on my Facebook and Instagram messenger. They told me I was fat and I must just go running. For whatever reason, I believed them, and I remember spending four months just gymming and doing Zumba. On the flip side, when I lost a lot of weight because of stress, people said I looked sick. So the point I am trying to make here is that people will never be satisfied by how you look and they will never know what you are going through. You could be happy with your body or be going through an emotionally stressful time. Them saying something to you about your appearance should not drag you down and make you depressed. So what do you do when somebody criticizes you for the way you look?

There is no one perfect body

The first is to accept the fact that there is no one perfect body . The media, Instagram and everything that we consume on a daily basis have this idea of what the perfect body looks like she must be tall, she must have lean legs, she must have a tiny waist and her face should be perfectly symmetrical. But if you feel good about yourself, you do not have to listen to what everybody else has to say. Let no one tell you that you can t wear something because it is not going to look good on you. Remember that the perfect body is the body you are happiest in.

Others' opinion does not matter

Be headstrong and do not let other people s opinion affect how you feel about yourself. Yes, it is way easier said than done but once you learn that you are in control of your emotions, your life is going to be so much better. So never let people tell you can't-do something. You can do whatever you want.

People bring you down out of insecurities

The third thing is to remember that if somebody is attacking you, chances are that they are probably insecure about something in their life. Insecure people do crazy things either by commenting or bringing you down because it makes them feel better about themselves. Here are ways women body shame other women.

Body shaming will be a lifelong thing

Finally, understand that body shaming is not something that is going to disappear from your life. You are probably going to go through it several times in your high school, your college, job, in your wedding, during pregnancy, when you are older. There is no end to it. You just need to be prepared and not let those words affect you negatively. These 7 Bollywood actresses fought back against body shaming.

Beauty is subjective. You might not be one person s cup of tea but you might be somebody else s golden goddess. Also, instead of on focusing on things you are not happy, focus on things that you really feel positive about. And for the love of God, do not be the person who sits behind the computer screen and makes nasty comments because you feel like it. Don t be the person that is rude to another woman or man just because you feel like it. We do not need any of that in the world. Let s make our conversations less petty and superficial and more powerful!

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