common carnal sins women make in bedWe are brought up believing that sex should always be initiated by men and it’s mostly about pleasing men, notions that are deeply wrong.  Here are some common mistakes women make in the bedroom (and any other place one likes to have sex). 

Sin #1: Assuming men are ready, and want sex all the time.

This may be true for a teenager with raging hormones, but not with someone who is in his mid-20s, the latter has too much to worry about and that tends to dampen his desire for sex.

Sin #2: Sex is done when he’s done

Not true, you can always turn the tables on him.  What’s stopping you from telling him, ‘Hey, we’re not finished yet’? If his orgasm seriously has wiped him out (and in his defence, his body is flooded with ‘sleep’ hormones immediately after orgasm), explain to him that you need to have yours before he does. (What women want in the bedroom)

Sin #3:Sex is more than than just sex to men

Men often have sex to feel wanted. It may be hard for women to accept that it’s a way for men to express affection, but it just might be the case.  So, if he really wants to say ‘I love you’, he may suggest sex. If he feels emasculated, sex could make him manly again. If he’s feeling vulnerable after a health scare, sex is his way of proving to himself he doesn’t have to go through it alone. Sometimes when you reject sex, you’re not just rejecting sex but you’re effectively saying ‘I don’t like or want you’. Adopt a new philosophy: don’t say no, say when and always make it clear you’re saying no to sex, not a cuddle or cosy chat. (Top 5 female orgasm myths busted)

Sin #4: Sticking to the same boring routine

You wouldn’t expect your partner to eat the same lunch every day. Why then, do most of us become paranoid when our partner dares to suggest a change to their sexual menu?  Wanting change is nothing to be threatened by. (Read: Top sex positions – woman on top)

Sin #5: Not giving enough instructions

If you don’t show or tell him how to touch you—when, where, how hard, how fast, in as much detail as possible—you might as well both give up there and then.

Source: DNA

  • meenu

    DEAR SIR/MAM…….

    MAY NAME IS MEENA I AM 26 YEAR OLD. I HAD SEX WITH MY BF LAST MONTH AND THAT WAS SECOND TIME WHEN WE HAD SEX.WE USED CONDOM ALLWAYS . AND I BLEED BADLY AROUND ONE HOUR.AFTER TAKE MADICINE BLEEDING WAS STOPED . AND I WAS FAINT BECOUSE OF BLOODING. I CAN NOT GO TO THE DOC. FOR CHEK UP. MY QUES. IS THIS WHY THIS THIS HAPPEND WITH ME???? . I AM VERY SCARED FROM THAT DAY. MY PARENTS SEARCHING HUSBAND FOR ME. AND PLZ TELL ME HOW CAN I HIDE MY NON VERGINIY FROM MY FUTURE HUSBAND I CANT TELL HIM TRUTH YOU KONW OUR CULTURE N ALL . PLZZZZ HELP ME OTHER WISE I HAVE ONLY ONE SOLUTION THAT IS SUISIDE…………………. PLZ REPLY ME AS SOON AS POSSIBLE SORRY FOR GRAMETICAL MISTAKES M NOT GOOD IN ENGLISH

    THANKS &REGARDS

    MEENU

    • Pavitra Sampath

      Hi,

      Firstly, please do not commit suicide. You do not need to, and
      it is not the end of the world. You had sex, that you enjoyed (hopefully) and there is nothing wrong with that.

      Secondly, the bleeding you had, was most likely due to the rupture of your hymen and the fact that your boyfriend probably hurt the mouth of your cervix (the part inside you vagina that leads to your uterus). This can cause bleeding. Also when a woman’s hymen breaks for the first time, it can lead to bleeding. The amount of differs from one woman to the other.

      More importantly, what medicine did you take? Are you still
      bleeding or were you bleeding for a few days after the first incidence? Were
      you about to have your periods? These are all factors that could have caused
      you to bleed. Please look into these things and do not panic.

      Lastly, about your future husband. Our culture takes a very
      stern view on virginity and if you feel that the man you are going to marry
      will not like it if you tell him that you are not a virgin, you can choose not
      to tell him. A woman’s virginity is very hard to decipher. The only way is to
      see if her hymen is intact. Now, the hymen is a very thin membrane that breaks if you run, jump, walk, cycle, swim or in some case due to hormones. In some women the membrane isn’t even present. So please do not worry on that score. Fall in love with the man you marry and let life happen. Be brave
      and do not worry. If this happens again (when you have sex again), I would
      suggest you go to a doctor, since it might indicate a larger problem.

      • MEENU

        THANK U FOR REPLY MAM AND THE MEDICINE NAME IS NOVACLOX-LB, AND TRENAXA 500, AND THE THIRD ONE’S NAME IS SKIP FROM MY MIND. AND M NOT BLEEDING NOW AFTER TAKE THIS MEDICINE BLEDING WAS STOPED WITH IN ONE HOUR. AND WHEN WE DONE THIS FIST TIME THEN NEXT DAY MY PERIODS COMES BUT THAT WAS NORMAL LIKE ALLWAYS. BUT NOW IT WAS SOO SCERY PLZZZ HELP ME MAM PLZ IF U RECOGNISE MY PROBLM WITH THE NAME OF MEDICINE PLZ TELL ME WHATEVER IT WILL BE. PLZ HELP ME

  • Khalid

    It is good guidance program especially for those who’s approach is limited but they need some instruction regarding sex . Tell me plz can I ask question ?and can you send me your mail add

  • rawatbhopalsingh

    I have sex any thing girl

  • abdullah

    maiy saxh karna cahhata hun