A girl I have known for along time is giving me mixed signals
Answer:Hi,it seems like she sees you more as a friend and not a potential boyfriend. If you do want to reconnect with her, be prepared that she won't start dating you and even if you put in all the efforts to pursue her, they might still be unsuccessful.
If you want to reach out to her since she is lonely, do so with low expectations. Of course, you shouldn't have given her that ultimatum about her having sex with you if you help her financially. Respect her wants and needs if you want to be her friend and if you want to do something nice for her, do it without expecting sex in return. After all, she isn't a prostitute.
My advise would be not to lend or give her any money again. Many friendships and relationships fall apart because of that, so if she asks you to help her financially again, politely tell her you can't. Also remember not to seem too clingy or needy either and give her some space.