There may have been times in your life when you wish you'd handled a situation better and with a little bit of maturity. Some people have the wisdom of sages at age ten and then many pout and sulk after getting beaten fair and square at a game of cards. But the good news is that maturity can be inculcated at any age, provided that you willingly work towards it. Here are some of the ways in which you can be more mature in life.
Always review your actions in retrospect: If you think you behaved inappropriately in a given situation, assess what went wrong and how you could handle it better next time. Maybe you lashed out at a colleague or you became party to spreading a malicious rumour about a friend, whatever it is that you did, make a note of what you could have done instead. This prepares to better to deal with similar situations in the future.
Count backwards: When you sense an emotional outburst, breathe deeply and count backwards from ten to one. This gives you enough buffer time to quickly reflect over the consequences of your actions, and this saves you from reacting to the situation inappropriately.
Be detached: Do people let you have your way in arguments with you because you take everything too personally? This is probably because you are tying your beliefs to your self esteem. Practice detachment from people and from things and learn to look at things from a dispassionate point of view. A little detachment goes a long way.
Stop looking for sympathy and stop feeling sorry for yourself: Self pity is OK but only for a while because it severely stops you from making any personal progress. And life's too short to take extended pit stops.
Live in the present and let go of the past: The past is a comfortable place. It is a familiar place, unlike the uncertain future which scares you. Excessive fixation with the past signals a deep psychological problem. So savour the good memories of your past, but always look towards the future.
Be more action oriented. At the end of the day, there will be a million things that will work against you. Instead of complaining, try putting your mental energy into finding solutions to accomplish your task. Stop wasting your time with ifs and buts; and for heaven's sake, stop crying over spilt milk.
Cut yourself some slack and reward yourself for your good behaviour: Proud of yourself for letting go of a petty argument? Pat yourself in the back and give yourself a nice little treat. It's a great way to reinforce your good behaviour. After all, being mature is no child's play and we often forget to give ourselves our well-deserved credit.